Thank you for sharing this, Jessica! We are very much in this phase right now too. I literally read this out loud to my husband last night and it helped us both so much to feel less alone. I turn 40 this year and definitely feel like I'm not where I should be in life. We both feel big changes coming but we're not sure what that looks like just yet, except that we want to live more creatively and travel more. Our main core value together is the freedom to choose our life. Big change is disorienting and confusing and terrifying but as you said, SO exciting too! If only we had a crystal ball right? So excited to watch your journey unfold and see where it takes you! Thank you for sharing the in-between bits, it helps those of us who are right there along with you. Cheering you on!!
Love this and well done for embracing the change. Especially when it comes to moving or making really big changes, I know so well how scary it can be, but so worth it. Over the last ten years I've spent time living in Zambia, four years in Florence, then moved to Austria (my idea of a nightmare) in 2020. Each move has completely transformed my life and taught me so much, as well as influencing my career. Now I'm getting ready for moving somewhere and settling, and I'm using all of these steps you've mentioned, above all not rushing it, despite my impatience! Good luck and we look forward to seeing these changes unfold 🌟
Thank you for this. I'm there now. Big changes similar to those I experienced a few years ago, but this time I am thinking bigger and embracing them. I'm acknowledging the pit of my stomach feelings of fear but trusting that everything is unfolding exactly as it should be. I am excited and know that the next chapter is going to take me places I've never been. Places of freedom and healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences.
Oh how I feel the winds of change as well! I built a 3 bedroom townhouse almost 2 years ago. At the time my Dad lived in the area and my Mum was 20 mins drive away.
Now my Dad is 30 mins drive away and my Mum is 1 hour 30 mins away. I feel very alone, my friends don’t live nearby and I’m ready to make a change. As a single woman I do not need a 3 bedroom house. I really only need one bedroom and a small courtyard for my dog, Daisy. There is a lot to think about in the coming months about where I want to live. I also do not “love” my job but it is a flexible job where I work from home 4 days and spend only one day a week in the office. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for both of us!!
Love constant reassessment. We are life be lifing. Keep the faith, never be afraid. All changes. It’s a wonderful thing. Beautiful writing. Thank you 🙏
Such great advice. Myself and my family have gone through major changes in the last three years and another is on the horizon. It is so important to learn the lessons of the past and allow them to better the changes of the future. Wishing you all the best on your next adventure 😁
I love this so much, Jessica. And I can’t wait to see your next iteration, no matter what that may be. I’m in a very similar space and it’s scary to think about leaving what’s comfortable and purposefully going into something that’s scary and uncomfortable, but knowing it will lead to greater growth and happiness in the long-term. Ahh the joys of being human.
I am in that death anxiety phase also at the minute, also a cervical cancer survivor, plagued now with gut issues and menopause has brought all my fears back, good luck for your future xx
“It’s ok to feel scared but I won’t dismiss the excitement this time, because if me 10 years ago could see me now - she wouldn’t believe it.” Oof, yes - love this, Jess! Makes me wonder what we’ll think looking back in another decade…
Love the ideas about listening to your intuition and looking inwards too. I’ve started doing that more with tarot cards ( I know you love a bit of the woowoo too, haha). 🔮I did the Unravel Your Year workbook again this year and there was a space this time for choosing a tarot card for each month - did anyone else do it? Some of the cards didn’t make immediate sense but the words connected with them made me think about what it is I want for this year (and the longer term too). Helps me tune in to myself, I think? Such a lovely process and the more we move through the year and various things develop the more it all makes sense… ✨
Also right there with you as a recovering perfectionist! Here’s to finding ease, space and joy as the next part of the journey unfolds - and to trusting yourself every step of the way. 💫Excited for you and cheering you on!
Loved, loved reading this and so excited for you. I think a lot of us feel this way, but it takes real bravery to act on it. Really looking forward to seeing where this takes you. Sending all my love x
Beautiful writing! Best of luck with the change 💞💃🏻 I am not sure whether they would work for yours, I am just about done with my next substack post titled "The book and videos that made me rethink about reincarnation and consciousness" they helped me with my death anxiety.
Jessica so resonated with all of this. Love how your describe your feelings whilst in this unknown phase... beautifully written as always. Looking forward to the next instalment. Lis x
Thank you for sharing this, Jessica! We are very much in this phase right now too. I literally read this out loud to my husband last night and it helped us both so much to feel less alone. I turn 40 this year and definitely feel like I'm not where I should be in life. We both feel big changes coming but we're not sure what that looks like just yet, except that we want to live more creatively and travel more. Our main core value together is the freedom to choose our life. Big change is disorienting and confusing and terrifying but as you said, SO exciting too! If only we had a crystal ball right? So excited to watch your journey unfold and see where it takes you! Thank you for sharing the in-between bits, it helps those of us who are right there along with you. Cheering you on!!
Love this and well done for embracing the change. Especially when it comes to moving or making really big changes, I know so well how scary it can be, but so worth it. Over the last ten years I've spent time living in Zambia, four years in Florence, then moved to Austria (my idea of a nightmare) in 2020. Each move has completely transformed my life and taught me so much, as well as influencing my career. Now I'm getting ready for moving somewhere and settling, and I'm using all of these steps you've mentioned, above all not rushing it, despite my impatience! Good luck and we look forward to seeing these changes unfold 🌟
Thank you for this. I'm there now. Big changes similar to those I experienced a few years ago, but this time I am thinking bigger and embracing them. I'm acknowledging the pit of my stomach feelings of fear but trusting that everything is unfolding exactly as it should be. I am excited and know that the next chapter is going to take me places I've never been. Places of freedom and healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences.
Oh how I feel the winds of change as well! I built a 3 bedroom townhouse almost 2 years ago. At the time my Dad lived in the area and my Mum was 20 mins drive away.
Now my Dad is 30 mins drive away and my Mum is 1 hour 30 mins away. I feel very alone, my friends don’t live nearby and I’m ready to make a change. As a single woman I do not need a 3 bedroom house. I really only need one bedroom and a small courtyard for my dog, Daisy. There is a lot to think about in the coming months about where I want to live. I also do not “love” my job but it is a flexible job where I work from home 4 days and spend only one day a week in the office. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for both of us!!
Love constant reassessment. We are life be lifing. Keep the faith, never be afraid. All changes. It’s a wonderful thing. Beautiful writing. Thank you 🙏
Such great advice. Myself and my family have gone through major changes in the last three years and another is on the horizon. It is so important to learn the lessons of the past and allow them to better the changes of the future. Wishing you all the best on your next adventure 😁
Good luck, Jessica. Also, it was beautiful to listen to the audio version of your piece. x
I love this so much, Jessica. And I can’t wait to see your next iteration, no matter what that may be. I’m in a very similar space and it’s scary to think about leaving what’s comfortable and purposefully going into something that’s scary and uncomfortable, but knowing it will lead to greater growth and happiness in the long-term. Ahh the joys of being human.
I am in that death anxiety phase also at the minute, also a cervical cancer survivor, plagued now with gut issues and menopause has brought all my fears back, good luck for your future xx
“It’s ok to feel scared but I won’t dismiss the excitement this time, because if me 10 years ago could see me now - she wouldn’t believe it.” Oof, yes - love this, Jess! Makes me wonder what we’ll think looking back in another decade…
Love the ideas about listening to your intuition and looking inwards too. I’ve started doing that more with tarot cards ( I know you love a bit of the woowoo too, haha). 🔮I did the Unravel Your Year workbook again this year and there was a space this time for choosing a tarot card for each month - did anyone else do it? Some of the cards didn’t make immediate sense but the words connected with them made me think about what it is I want for this year (and the longer term too). Helps me tune in to myself, I think? Such a lovely process and the more we move through the year and various things develop the more it all makes sense… ✨
Also right there with you as a recovering perfectionist! Here’s to finding ease, space and joy as the next part of the journey unfolds - and to trusting yourself every step of the way. 💫Excited for you and cheering you on!
Loved, loved reading this and so excited for you. I think a lot of us feel this way, but it takes real bravery to act on it. Really looking forward to seeing where this takes you. Sending all my love x
Beautiful writing! Best of luck with the change 💞💃🏻 I am not sure whether they would work for yours, I am just about done with my next substack post titled "The book and videos that made me rethink about reincarnation and consciousness" they helped me with my death anxiety.
Jessica so resonated with all of this. Love how your describe your feelings whilst in this unknown phase... beautifully written as always. Looking forward to the next instalment. Lis x