I remember when I left a long-term relationship, the hardest part was learning to be with myself. I never thought of myself as an individual, but always as a partner. That relationship was my identity and once it was gone, it felt like I was too. The one thing I told myself not to do was jump into another relationship to feel fulfilled, to feel whole, but to give that time and attention I would someone else to me. Best decision I've made.
isn't it like being a fish out of water? I've never done it! Your entire identity comes into question and it's as terrifying as it is liberating. I've done exactly the same relationship wise and I'm so pleased. Jumping into another would've been the easiest quick fix in the world but no way. Long term I know it would've been a disaster without healing. So pleased you made the right decision for you Kayla x
This was nourishing and resonated so deeply, beyond just "love yourself" messages which seem to make me feel emptier and emptier each time I come across them.
so pleased you enjoyed it Sahar, thank you for taking the time to let me know. I know what you mean about those messages - it's like okay yeah....but how?! ha ha. Personal story always adds a ton of weight I think but not always easy to share
Jessica you have the most wonderful way with words and it does strike a cord with most people including myself..your words bring a tear to my eye and the poem was just beautiful..I have read it again and again..enjoy your time away Jessica with lovely little Hope🥰 xxx❤️❤️❤️
thank you Catherine, so pleased my words struck a chord. Wasn't the poem a joy?! I had to share it with you. We had a fab time thank you but as always happy to be home xxx
I am an only child and was single for 19 years after a divorce. I travel for work and decided that I should not let free tickets to far off places go to waste so I decided to always tack on a few days at the end of a business trip. Once you learn to do things like travel alone, eat alone, watch a beautiful concert alone, etc. you will feel so much more whole. You may not want to do that but being able to do it are two different things. I hear from so many friends who have never even dined alone and see it as even scary to do. It is not, it is a way to fully enjoy a moment and be glad for all that you have.
Travelling alone is pretty much my favourite thing to do. It gives me time to tune into myself, to hear and see things I wouldn't have noticed if I was with another person, and has always led to some incredible inspiration. I always encourage people to try it when they tell that they're nervous, which I totally understand, but as you say, nerves could be excitement! My first solo trip was to Senegal as a 17-year-old, my most recent one was to an island in Croatia last year (as a 31-year-old); a recalibrating gift to myself after spending 8 weeks in hospital. Every solo trip, near or far, adventurous or gentle, long or short, have been the best decisions of my life.
I remember when I left a long-term relationship, the hardest part was learning to be with myself. I never thought of myself as an individual, but always as a partner. That relationship was my identity and once it was gone, it felt like I was too. The one thing I told myself not to do was jump into another relationship to feel fulfilled, to feel whole, but to give that time and attention I would someone else to me. Best decision I've made.
isn't it like being a fish out of water? I've never done it! Your entire identity comes into question and it's as terrifying as it is liberating. I've done exactly the same relationship wise and I'm so pleased. Jumping into another would've been the easiest quick fix in the world but no way. Long term I know it would've been a disaster without healing. So pleased you made the right decision for you Kayla x
Omg, yes! It was so scary but like you said, liberating as well. Glad we both put ourselves first and made healing a priority. :)
This was nourishing and resonated so deeply, beyond just "love yourself" messages which seem to make me feel emptier and emptier each time I come across them.
so pleased you enjoyed it Sahar, thank you for taking the time to let me know. I know what you mean about those messages - it's like okay yeah....but how?! ha ha. Personal story always adds a ton of weight I think but not always easy to share
Jessica you have the most wonderful way with words and it does strike a cord with most people including myself..your words bring a tear to my eye and the poem was just beautiful..I have read it again and again..enjoy your time away Jessica with lovely little Hope🥰 xxx❤️❤️❤️
thank you Catherine, so pleased my words struck a chord. Wasn't the poem a joy?! I had to share it with you. We had a fab time thank you but as always happy to be home xxx
I am an only child and was single for 19 years after a divorce. I travel for work and decided that I should not let free tickets to far off places go to waste so I decided to always tack on a few days at the end of a business trip. Once you learn to do things like travel alone, eat alone, watch a beautiful concert alone, etc. you will feel so much more whole. You may not want to do that but being able to do it are two different things. I hear from so many friends who have never even dined alone and see it as even scary to do. It is not, it is a way to fully enjoy a moment and be glad for all that you have.
Travelling alone is pretty much my favourite thing to do. It gives me time to tune into myself, to hear and see things I wouldn't have noticed if I was with another person, and has always led to some incredible inspiration. I always encourage people to try it when they tell that they're nervous, which I totally understand, but as you say, nerves could be excitement! My first solo trip was to Senegal as a 17-year-old, my most recent one was to an island in Croatia last year (as a 31-year-old); a recalibrating gift to myself after spending 8 weeks in hospital. Every solo trip, near or far, adventurous or gentle, long or short, have been the best decisions of my life.