That step of moving from the work of healing into the living of it can be such a tough one to navigate. I applaud you for realizing that you're ready to put that work into action. And I'd say, this is just another step in your journey of healing. Healing isn't just probing a wound or dissecting it - that's diagnosis. It's also letting that wound finally close once you understand that doing so will let it stop hurting.
I love that your focus is on connection this year. I agree many people are craving that sense of deeper feeling, beyond the shell of social media that we've been in for so many years. Realness is making a comeback. It's why I'm really enjoying substack also, as it feels like a place where deeper, slower connections can happen. I don't have a word for the year, specifically because I'm working on undoing my own triggers around goals and achievement, but I am tapping into my intuition and letting that guide me.
p.s. Do you mind sharing where your tarot deck is from? It's beautiful!
Kerani, I really relate you your comment. Especially around undoing the triggers around goals and achievement. I love that you’re letting your intuition guide you. I’m new to Substack, already I feel I have found somewhere I can final feel at home.
‘Healing isn't just probing a wound or dissecting it - that's diagnosis. It's also letting that wound finally close once you understand that doing so will let it stop hurting’. Wow, wow, wow. That is so powerful Kerani! Thank you for sharing that 🙏🏼🧡
Silly to think how we let just a few short years, yes informative years... but still short in comparison... define us for the rest of our lives. What if we take those years and thank them, release them, and start seeing ourselves in a new beginning? Stop micromanaging and putting into compartments in our brains how we think, how we feel, how we react to things... and just be. For us not to say, "I always feel this way about...." or "I always do this when..." but be in the moment and react without thoughts attached to the past, but to the present. I believe my word for 2023 is "freedom".... Happy New Year.
What a beautiful vision board and a month living as a Parisian sounds like so much fun. I took the quiz you mention, and despite a bad start in life, it turns out that I now have a secure attachment style. Change is possible and we don't have to be defined by our childhoods.
My word of the year is 'home.' Home in all senses of the word including curating mine in the The White Company meets Studio Mcgee style I love. I've alo started a Substack newsletter and that is the home for all the writing I have planned for the year.
I love that you came out secure! I’ve only just discovered I was avoidant, however, recently got in a new relationship and I feel so secure! Never felt like this before, it’s good to know it’s possible. I’ve joined your new substack page, look forward to hearing your musings x
I do think it's possible to change Amber but you do have to work at it. Having relationships which model this are in my view an important part of the process. The Good Life is a new book which dives into this whole area of relationships. Thank you so much for subscribing to my Substack newsletter.
I love reading your words, thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to your thoughts around connection. I long for deeper connection in my life. My word of the year is 'Gently' I've spent all my adult life beating myself up so going 'Gently' at a steady pace is what I am focusing on.
I can relate to much of what you said and yes, connection is so important! This is something that I need more of in my own life as well. As a side note, have you read Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online World by Emma Gannon? Absolutely brilliant book!
My word for 2023 is LISTEN. I landed on this word as it just kept coming up for me – listening to my body, my thoughts, my wants and needs, listening to others, really listening. I think it’s the key to finding true connection so I am going to go with that.
Looking forward to seeing your content continue to flourish in 2023. xx
Happy New Year! I loved this post and can just feel the energy and excitement as you go into this year of 'Connection'. My word for 2023 is 'Nurture', as I want to nurture my body, my mind and my relationships. Looking forward to following along on your adventures this year xx
wow Jessica! These are such beautiful words and food for toughs :) I chose «I am safe when I am 100% myself» (to difficult to only choose one word haha!) and I already feel the shift within myself. I want to be clear on who I am, putting my boundaries nicely but firmly and feel confident to be seen (and held) as my 100% authentic and vulnerable and often anxious and beautiful self.
Absolutely beautiful post. I've had the same feelings of craving community and COVID literally propelled me toward actively doing just that. I also want to simplify. I'm tired, worn out and stressed and not being the best me for my family, friends, or myself. So excited for you and your journey. Will you be vlogging still?
Ahhh love this post my new friend Jessica 🙏 I can relate to so much ! It’s a little like reading about myself at times. My word of the year is unleash and I’m spending some time in Thailand where I plan to unleash the new inner writer in me so I can get my book underway. I’ve just written a similar post about my year last year that I can’t wait go share this Sunday (tomorrow). I’m a big fan of your work and really enjoy reading and connecting with it so much - thanks for sharing xx
I feel the same about therapy this year! I’ve done 2-3 years now and I feel like I need a break and to just enjoy life. So glad you said that as it clarified things for me :) Great blog, really enjoyed it.
A great post to start the new year! My word is Truth. I have realized that I need to fully acknowledge things in my life and the make the change. No longer sweeping it under the rug, looking the other way, thinking if doesn't matter, going onto the next self help book or idea. I need to fully sit with what is true in my life. So far I have named as truths in my life that dairy inflames me so badly I can't have the life I want. The same for alcohol just not leaving me feeling healthy and happy the next day.
Three years ago I finally acknowledged that I wanted a deeper connection with special someone and he has moved in and been a joy in my life. I hope you find the kinds of connections you search for!
Such an open and honst post! One inner practice that I'm hoping to cultivate this year is: savor the moments and/or things that are most important in my life, by being present and by removing everything that distracts me from them. Is it possible everyone is work in progress so our healing is ongoing, and no one is a broken doll? I hope you will connect with at least one beautiful soul in 2023.
That step of moving from the work of healing into the living of it can be such a tough one to navigate. I applaud you for realizing that you're ready to put that work into action. And I'd say, this is just another step in your journey of healing. Healing isn't just probing a wound or dissecting it - that's diagnosis. It's also letting that wound finally close once you understand that doing so will let it stop hurting.
I love that your focus is on connection this year. I agree many people are craving that sense of deeper feeling, beyond the shell of social media that we've been in for so many years. Realness is making a comeback. It's why I'm really enjoying substack also, as it feels like a place where deeper, slower connections can happen. I don't have a word for the year, specifically because I'm working on undoing my own triggers around goals and achievement, but I am tapping into my intuition and letting that guide me.
p.s. Do you mind sharing where your tarot deck is from? It's beautiful!
Kerani, I really relate you your comment. Especially around undoing the triggers around goals and achievement. I love that you’re letting your intuition guide you. I’m new to Substack, already I feel I have found somewhere I can final feel at home.
‘Healing isn't just probing a wound or dissecting it - that's diagnosis. It's also letting that wound finally close once you understand that doing so will let it stop hurting’. Wow, wow, wow. That is so powerful Kerani! Thank you for sharing that 🙏🏼🧡
Silly to think how we let just a few short years, yes informative years... but still short in comparison... define us for the rest of our lives. What if we take those years and thank them, release them, and start seeing ourselves in a new beginning? Stop micromanaging and putting into compartments in our brains how we think, how we feel, how we react to things... and just be. For us not to say, "I always feel this way about...." or "I always do this when..." but be in the moment and react without thoughts attached to the past, but to the present. I believe my word for 2023 is "freedom".... Happy New Year.
What a beautiful vision board and a month living as a Parisian sounds like so much fun. I took the quiz you mention, and despite a bad start in life, it turns out that I now have a secure attachment style. Change is possible and we don't have to be defined by our childhoods.
My word of the year is 'home.' Home in all senses of the word including curating mine in the The White Company meets Studio Mcgee style I love. I've alo started a Substack newsletter and that is the home for all the writing I have planned for the year.
Wishing you the happiest of new years.
I love that you came out secure! I’ve only just discovered I was avoidant, however, recently got in a new relationship and I feel so secure! Never felt like this before, it’s good to know it’s possible. I’ve joined your new substack page, look forward to hearing your musings x
I do think it's possible to change Amber but you do have to work at it. Having relationships which model this are in my view an important part of the process. The Good Life is a new book which dives into this whole area of relationships. Thank you so much for subscribing to my Substack newsletter.
I love reading your words, thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to your thoughts around connection. I long for deeper connection in my life. My word of the year is 'Gently' I've spent all my adult life beating myself up so going 'Gently' at a steady pace is what I am focusing on.
That's such a wonderful word Dawn. I love it. As another self beater upper it really resonates....wishing you all the best for 2023.
Aww thanks Heather. It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves. Being soft and gentle is my plan. Wishing you a wonderful 2023 too. X
Love what you wrote here Jess ♥️
I can relate to much of what you said and yes, connection is so important! This is something that I need more of in my own life as well. As a side note, have you read Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online World by Emma Gannon? Absolutely brilliant book!
I can empathise with you so much. I hope everything works out for you in 2023. Xx
So helpful and relatable. Thanks Jess.
My word for 2023 is LISTEN. I landed on this word as it just kept coming up for me – listening to my body, my thoughts, my wants and needs, listening to others, really listening. I think it’s the key to finding true connection so I am going to go with that.
Looking forward to seeing your content continue to flourish in 2023. xx
Happy New Year! I loved this post and can just feel the energy and excitement as you go into this year of 'Connection'. My word for 2023 is 'Nurture', as I want to nurture my body, my mind and my relationships. Looking forward to following along on your adventures this year xx
I really found these thoughts helpful. Thank you ❤️
So pleased to hear this. Thank you for letting me know ❤️
wow Jessica! These are such beautiful words and food for toughs :) I chose «I am safe when I am 100% myself» (to difficult to only choose one word haha!) and I already feel the shift within myself. I want to be clear on who I am, putting my boundaries nicely but firmly and feel confident to be seen (and held) as my 100% authentic and vulnerable and often anxious and beautiful self.
Absolutely beautiful post. I've had the same feelings of craving community and COVID literally propelled me toward actively doing just that. I also want to simplify. I'm tired, worn out and stressed and not being the best me for my family, friends, or myself. So excited for you and your journey. Will you be vlogging still?
Ahhh love this post my new friend Jessica 🙏 I can relate to so much ! It’s a little like reading about myself at times. My word of the year is unleash and I’m spending some time in Thailand where I plan to unleash the new inner writer in me so I can get my book underway. I’ve just written a similar post about my year last year that I can’t wait go share this Sunday (tomorrow). I’m a big fan of your work and really enjoy reading and connecting with it so much - thanks for sharing xx
I feel the same about therapy this year! I’ve done 2-3 years now and I feel like I need a break and to just enjoy life. So glad you said that as it clarified things for me :) Great blog, really enjoyed it.
A great post to start the new year! My word is Truth. I have realized that I need to fully acknowledge things in my life and the make the change. No longer sweeping it under the rug, looking the other way, thinking if doesn't matter, going onto the next self help book or idea. I need to fully sit with what is true in my life. So far I have named as truths in my life that dairy inflames me so badly I can't have the life I want. The same for alcohol just not leaving me feeling healthy and happy the next day.
Three years ago I finally acknowledged that I wanted a deeper connection with special someone and he has moved in and been a joy in my life. I hope you find the kinds of connections you search for!
Good read
Such an open and honst post! One inner practice that I'm hoping to cultivate this year is: savor the moments and/or things that are most important in my life, by being present and by removing everything that distracts me from them. Is it possible everyone is work in progress so our healing is ongoing, and no one is a broken doll? I hope you will connect with at least one beautiful soul in 2023.