Walking away when you know they’re not right is important as you write, but then when we’re at our most lonely we forget those reasons and just feel abandonment and loss.
So it’s an emotional process isn’t it, whether they’re right or not right.
And it’s reminding ourselves that being on our own is ok and better than compromising as on our own, with the relationship with ourselves is most important and it helps us to find our right person so it’s never a waste of time.
The most important thing in life is to fill it with love isn’t it. Love for our friends, family and ourselves with or without a partner
I loved reading all these lessons. I’ve been happily married for eight years to the guy I met on the first day of uni - I’ve not been on a date for 15 years and even then I could probably count them on one hand! BUT all these lessons were still so relevant as I love the idea of continuing to date throughout marriage. And, after a year spent healing from deep trauma, we’re almost having to start again (in terms of my ability to open up and accept love) so dating advice seems very apt to have received today 🥰
I too have been living under the guise of “I’m not really sure what I’m looking for” or that I don’t really know what I want… the truth is that do, but I don’t want to admit it to myself because of the fear it doesn’t exist (which of course it does but there’s my work to do right there!) or worse still, that I don’t deserve it.
I recently ended things with the first guy I’ve dated since my marriage ended. I knew it wasn’t right and he wasn’t fulfilling my basic needs. It felt so empowering to stand up for my values in that way yet I’m so grateful for all that he taught me and things brought up (even though it now feels like months of stuff to trawl through!)
Thank you for all your wisdom you’ve shared here 🤍 I’ll be saving this for sure!
Wow, I LOVED this post. So true how you can't simplify love and even 14 years of marriage, I'm learning about my partner daily and what it takes to really be in a relationship.
Oh my goodness soooo good. I met my husband on eHarmony and at that point I had called off an engagement, moved countries, and had no patience for settling. I would in no way say our marriage is perfect, but we both are committed and nothing will change that. We have been through a lot together and choose daily to be our best selves for each other. I realized quickly it was not worth settling to be married when all my friends were getting married, and I'm thankful I chose to stick to being authentic as I could be and focus on having those hard talks prior to committing to marriage. Love is hard, and sending you all the best wishes on this adventure. Beautiful piece Jess!!!!
Love these lessons Jess 💔❤️🩹❤️
Walking away when you know they’re not right is important as you write, but then when we’re at our most lonely we forget those reasons and just feel abandonment and loss.
So it’s an emotional process isn’t it, whether they’re right or not right.
And it’s reminding ourselves that being on our own is ok and better than compromising as on our own, with the relationship with ourselves is most important and it helps us to find our right person so it’s never a waste of time.
The most important thing in life is to fill it with love isn’t it. Love for our friends, family and ourselves with or without a partner
Best wishes xx
Wow what inspired writing, Jess! I loved reading this 💕 I’m married but can still take lessons from this! x
I loved reading all these lessons. I’ve been happily married for eight years to the guy I met on the first day of uni - I’ve not been on a date for 15 years and even then I could probably count them on one hand! BUT all these lessons were still so relevant as I love the idea of continuing to date throughout marriage. And, after a year spent healing from deep trauma, we’re almost having to start again (in terms of my ability to open up and accept love) so dating advice seems very apt to have received today 🥰
I mean wow, such an incredible read!
I too have been living under the guise of “I’m not really sure what I’m looking for” or that I don’t really know what I want… the truth is that do, but I don’t want to admit it to myself because of the fear it doesn’t exist (which of course it does but there’s my work to do right there!) or worse still, that I don’t deserve it.
I recently ended things with the first guy I’ve dated since my marriage ended. I knew it wasn’t right and he wasn’t fulfilling my basic needs. It felt so empowering to stand up for my values in that way yet I’m so grateful for all that he taught me and things brought up (even though it now feels like months of stuff to trawl through!)
Thank you for all your wisdom you’ve shared here 🤍 I’ll be saving this for sure!
Wow, I LOVED this post. So true how you can't simplify love and even 14 years of marriage, I'm learning about my partner daily and what it takes to really be in a relationship.
Oh my goodness soooo good. I met my husband on eHarmony and at that point I had called off an engagement, moved countries, and had no patience for settling. I would in no way say our marriage is perfect, but we both are committed and nothing will change that. We have been through a lot together and choose daily to be our best selves for each other. I realized quickly it was not worth settling to be married when all my friends were getting married, and I'm thankful I chose to stick to being authentic as I could be and focus on having those hard talks prior to committing to marriage. Love is hard, and sending you all the best wishes on this adventure. Beautiful piece Jess!!!!